Thanks for the calm voice of reason. It was funny today I could see the spiral but I couldnt bring myself to pull out of it. I knew I should have just left her alone and called her back tomorrow but it was just one of those days. I could see the mistakes and just couldnt stop the spiral downwards.
I understand the stalemate it seems that was a lot of our problems through the seperation. I was sucking it in today and was apoligising but then she yelled at me and told me to stop apologising - sheesh
Your right about the committment and I know that most of this responsibility falls on me. The hardest thing is that the major problem we have at the moment - money - cant be fixed that easily. But I have been lucky enough to get around this in the past and hopefully will get one more bit of luck. All should be finished here in two weeks so those immediate problems will be behind us.
I know what you mean about the challenge. For the most part, even with the distance and the financial issues, we have been making good progress. When the money issue isnt there then things are great between us but at the moment the money issue is in the centre and I cant difuse it.
I think we have a good solution soon. I have arranged that she will get a good monthly allotment (actually she will on paper become an employee of the company here running the Australia Office - lol). She can then use this and do with it what she wants.
Mate thanks very much for your thoughts. I will see how it goes tomorrow when I talk to her.
Andrew
BTW I have tried to find your thread in the past and could, can you give me a pointer?
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