Divorce not busted 2

[mulesqb]

I left the thank you card on the counter when I left the house this morning. I just got this text: "Thanks for the card! Do you know when the plumber is coming today?"

Thanks for the card? Thanks for the card?!! WTH? And it was sent with when is the plumber coming? What's up with her? Sandi2, any thoughts?
Sorry... I know I shouldn't expect anything. Still, I would have thought SOME kind of reaction other than "Thanks for the card".
Maybe she is waiting till I get home from work. I'm not expecting her to run into my arms when I get home, but I gave her a thank you card instead of an anniversary card. Isn't she affected in some manner about that?
She sent another text about bringing the boys to see "G-Force" tonight. She wants to eat at the theatre and see the movie. I said yes.
I probably need a 2x4, but please wrap it in bubble wrap, I am a little fragile today, it is after all our anniversary.

The count is 0-2 on Orich. Whats the pitch going to be from your wife? Curveball off the plate. Unhittable and makes you look weak swinging and missing.
Stop thinking like a "Nice Guy." Most of us here were in the club. Detaching means you have no attachment to the outcome of things. You gave her the card because it was the right thing to do for you. Her response (outcome) is what upsets you. She didn't respond the way you expected. Do you care how a person feels if you are cuffing them for breaking the law (boundary)? No, you are doing the right thing because it is the right thing.
You only control your thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions. You are not going to win her back by giving her the right card, saying the right thing, being who she wants or looking the right way. You will detach when you are being the best Orich, Dad, husband and cop you can because that is what is great for you. You can handle it.

Strength and Honor.

Cheers
Coach

Coach - I remember you and I discussing this a lot last year. She is detached from Orich right now. She is where he needs to get to. The card was the right thing to do, but her reaction was script. I like Dia's response. The LBS has to understand just how detached the WAS is. It will help understand responses just like the one Orich received this morning.

Orich - do your thing. You're a great man. Just be you. Be there for her. Not all over her. Give her the space she needs. Use that space for Orich time. Go learn how to hit Tiger's "stinger" so you can play golf in the wind. Ask coach how to hit a wiffle ball on a windy beach. Love your kids. You will get through this.

0-2 curveball off the plate, Coach?? That's so cliche. In this day and age of pitch counts and setup men, why not another blistering fastball inside??

Strength and Honor. And You can handle the 0-2 pitches.

Mules