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[pauld2100]

OK, If anyone is reading thses please reply. I think maybe you think I,m not listening but I am I have done all of the suggestions here with some slips not alot of them but it has happened a few times.
It has been months of really not doing anything, I know when I was in the R and living at home I was upset about things. problem is it was over the accident I was dealing with not with my W, she was not as supportive I thought. I did tend to talk to much about things like the accident and other issues we had. I told her how beautiful she was offter, amde suggestions about how we could handle things. She said once that she wanted me to know what she wanted without her telling me. I know our SL was suffering a bit because she thought It would hurt me, even when I told her it wouldnt and that part of our lives was ok, problem is I had lost the desire for sex because of the whole mess I was in with the doctors and being stuck in this lawsuit. It was not because I wasnt attracted to her just to much on my mind and she may have felt I was not capable, she had suggested doing things to jump start it and I was up for it but we never made the effort.
I think it had something to do with sex at this point, she jumped in bed with someone within 3 months... and after all the dating that dint work out now she is planning to bring this person from another state from her HS reunion. I know she had have sex with this guy and maybe it's just me but this whole thing is just seems really weird that she has now decided to move someone in after just spending a few days with this person. the few times I saw her before she went to this she was being pretty cold, I was doing what was suggested and not engaging much with her and I wonder now if the meetings we had were a small opening for me to do something. At this point it really dosnt matter I guess. I really have taken another blow here and this was the worse one so far. I would really like to ask if anyone has advice here, I have used all of the advice. I know this if she does move this person out here he really dosnt know what he's walking into with 2 half way grows kids! I know she will and has been really sweet to OP in hopes of getting someone to move in. Also I know she has thought about allot through out this whole mess, even after all the dating. I guess I just like to think of that as a small sign.... Anyone please