A couple quick things just want to add. I'd really love anyone's help! We did try counseling a couple times in past. Last time counseler said "well it doesn't sounds like you want to be married" - and shortly after he left.
I also get sad/disillusioned from this site a bit b/c many people seem to be able to turn things around when still living together or have kids. He moved out and no kids, so there is little motivation for WAH to want to work on things.
I know I can't control what he thinks/feels, i just PRAY he'll give this another chance. I'm staying in the same city as him for now - he still has some things to pick up from my apt when he gets back - so we'll have some interaction. What else can i do?