Fascinating stuff. I have frequently pointed out on this forum that people in GOOD marriage DO have affairs, and have pointed to Harley and others who have documented this. It's one of the places where I think DB falls short, in that its doctrine (or at least the way it's advocated by most people on these boards) seems to ALWAYS assume that the LBS is "equally to blame," and must have things they've done to contribute to the dysfunction in the marriage.
While many times this is true, it's not ALWAYS true, and sometimes a wayward spouse is simply . . . wayward.
