During the conversations we had over the last few days, I told her that I forgave her, truly forgave her for the affair. We cried together and hugged for a long time. She asked me if I would delete the emails.
I agreed. One, because i never planned to use them in the first place and two because it was really the only thing my wife could point to as bad behavior on my part.
Ugh. Unilateral disarmament -- never a good idea.
I agree with Bill's overall message of trying to find ways you can begin to show some compassion toward your wife, and let her know you're willing to work at this. Weakening your LEGAL position, however, is not the way to go about it.
Trust me, she will now find OTHER things to point to as "bad behavior" on your part, if she is so inclined. It will be a moving target list. Giving up your guns is foolish legally, and emotionally I don't think she is going to respect the capitulation.
