Reconciliation after divorce

[Sanderika]

Hi bonny,

I agree that you need to allow the relationship between your H and your kids to be theirs and theirs alone. Especially since all your kids are grown up. If they all want a relationship with him they will nurture it and vice-versa. Any interference
from you at this point will only serve to make you look bad. It certainly will not bring you to a new friendship with H, which is your goal right now.

This doesn't mean that you cannot show happy interest in their goings on. I would recommend that you keep doing what you did yesterday, it was a smart approach. H will like it. If he likes it, it's a good thing!!

You can find my thread by clicking on my name and finding:

"So, does he WANT to reconcile OR NOT that's the ?"

I have not posted on it much because I can't. When I say I can't., I could, but it does not seem to do me much good emotionally. I do plan to post the highlights and keep the day to day trivia out for now. It's so hard for me. I don't know if this makes any sense or not to you.

I am planning on updating it soon....

I think I am at a point in time where I am OK with the sitch as it is....if it goes either way I will be fine. It seems once a person reaches the point I am at the emotions calm way down and you actually harden to it all. I am for the most part now without any emotion. I have a hard time being angry, crying, happy, hopeful, etc... I know I hurt, maybe I am somehow masking the rest. I feel rather numb now..... Rambling here for the most part....

I have some great friends and we get out and have fun. I have a wonderful 13 year old son, he is joy to do stuff with. I have two jobs that keep me busy. I have my home, I maintain alone. My life is full enough for now....I will keep DB, I truly want my H to come back to us. Standing for me isn't so much of an option anymore, I have invested way too much time on it to turn back now.

Thank you for showing interest in my sitch, it's fun having friends on this BB, this is a wonderful group of people.

Have a wonderful afternoon!!

Sanderika