Divorce Pending

[Trixi]

I have been thinking these past few days that I want to really develop my relationship with God during this time, so I visited a Christian bookstore where I found two good books. One is Hope for the Separated by Chapman and the other is I Do Again, by Cheryl and Jeff Scruggs. If you read I Do Again, have some kleenex handy. They reconciled after being divorced for 7 years. I read the book in one day, it's a very easy read.

I think, though, even more important than the reconciliation of the marriage, is that relationship that the people built with God. I don't really have much else to say..honestly, I sometimes think to myself that having hope that my marriage will be restored is just a pipe dream and a waste of time. That I should move on, blah blah blah..... Maybe the most important thing isn't that I have faith/hope that my marriage will be restored, but that I will be 'ok' and loved regardless of the outcome. I am searching for peace and security.

Lostforwords, I think you are very correct that the WAS is wanting us for security without the 'burden' of commitment. I don't think that we are required to give them such a thing. I think they are like teenagers; selfish, short-sighted.

In one of the books I was reading (Hope for the Separated, I think) the author said that sometimes the most loving thing a person can do is let the spouse experience consequences for their actions. "Sucking it up" and growing resentful is not in ANYone's best interest.

I can see I'm about to start babbling because I am overtired. So on that note- I bid you good night.