I skimmed DB at the bookstore, have read DR about 10 times in the last few months, do not have 5LL nor have I seen it. It sounds like one I should look into, though.
Thanks for the words of support! Today was a day they were definitely needed...
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed
5LL is excellent. Once you know which techniques are most suited to your spouse, you do need to keep a little restraint in not going over the top with it, especially if your spouse's LL is physical touch. My H is responding really will to compliments, praise and thanks (words of affirmation)but he's pretty gunshy about touch.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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Thanks Dia. I will check it out. My W is going away for 10 days on business, altho' I suspect OW may meet her where she is going.
At least for the next 10 days I do not have to feel like I am walking on eggshells, or wondering whether or not she is going to be sleeping at home or if I will see her & OW somewhere in the neighborhood...
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed