Thanks for the note. I tend to agree with you that my refusal to give up the emails that I held about the affair was making my wife feel trapped and powerless. It seemed to be the trigger that was causing some very explosive exchanges.
During the conversations we had over the last few days, I told her that I forgave her, truly forgave her for the affair. We cried together and hugged for a long time. She asked me if I would delete the emails.
I agreed. One, because i never planned to use them in the first place and two because it was really the only thing my wife could point to as bad behavior on my part.
We continue to have good days where we talk, have dinner out, cuddle on the couch.
The one thing I have learned from DB besides patience is to do what works. It seems like each day I get more right than wrong and I have to believe that over time this will help her see that this marriage is worth saving.
I'm trying to walk a very fine line between showing that we can have a loving marriage and pursuing behavior. We shall see how it goes.
Me 38 / W 37 M 14 yrs S 11/S8 First Bomb: 3/6/2009 EA Second Bomb: 6/4/2009 PA Same House Separate Rooms
