WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

This is like the 3rd time this has happened and the 2nd in like 2 weeks. And you get the same response every time.

She's teasing you and enjoys the control. Sure she may be a little "attracted" to you, but let's face it. If she was honest about it, why stop you when you are about to go farther. Why start bringing up the "hurt" again when she's half undressed? In a way she's punishing you for her perceived "hurt".

Stuck,

You are right, this was the second weekend in a row that it played out this way. I think she was attracted or at least responded somewhat as she said that she was ready (wet) when we stopped.

I'm not sure if she is trying to take control as she may be "flirty" or provocative by the way she acts and what she wears, but I make the move to kiss and get her undressed. She does respond until I try to take it further.

Perhaps she is punishing me or perhaps its like when you are dating someone in the beginning, they may not be ready to take it to that level, or what. I do know that in either circumstances, backing off for a bit does make sense.

Thanks for checking up on me again. Hope you enjoyed your vacation.

The physical stuff is very strange. My opinion is that its needs to be stopped by you. Stopped without making her feel rejected but also without any hint of pursuit. I am thinking something very light.
Maybe just stop, or stop her, smile, say nothing and change the subject.

I guess the goal would be to leave her wondering if she can have you in that way or not.

I'm not sure if I will really have the opportunity to "reject" her as I'm the one who takes off her shirt and bra (and last weekend unbottoned her shorts). While she did bring a bottle of wine over and her polo shirt buttons kept popping open to show off her clevage, I know she knew I noticed. What man wouldn't.....

Guess I will have to show some control to not reach out and grab them next time!

Yeah, CIPA shut her down on the 8th grade hook ups. That's just not fair to you.

But I think part of her does want to work this out but she's still got some anger issues. And she takes that opportunity when you're not only emotionally vulnerable, but partially naked to hit you in the head with it. That sucks. But you can take control back.

I really hope you are right that part of her wants to work this out. I am getting tired of this maddness. In a way, it is nice to be working so far from home as it doesn't seem like I'm confronted with it as much. I am treating it like I'm away on a business trip. Big difference now is that I know she won't be home when I get back. Major bummer.......

Thanks everyone for all your support and staying with me through her maddness and my craziness.