back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Wifey. Thanks for the post. You are dead on. I am trying to understand how everything just got shut down in one day. Litterally 1 day. I am trying to understand and help her. I think the later is impossible. I am certain that she believes she was too dependant on me. Her comment on being finNcially independant of me gave me the 2x4 to the head. So I think any help or suggestions I try to give will just make the sitch worse.

Tough thing is we don't have much to say to eachother. She is not very talkative lately. When we do talk it is about things in the future. Which is very bizarre to consider. The coues things seem awkward to me as the other couples sit together and hold hands and actually look at eachother. W cannot pull this off. We have a whole weekend with other couples and then family visiting for 5 days and an 8 day family vacation.

I had the time line based on W graduating and her goal and comment...I need to be financially independant and she doesn't think it is worth it to fix our M. Our MC sad I should really try and get her to seek help. For her sake and the kids. Not about our M but about her and finding herself.

If any has any reading recommendation please fire away. I did LR and DR.