Thanks everyone for your input...I am not going to do this..I definitely will make it easier for her DUH!!!!
So anyway...what I am wondering again is that should I call her out on the EA that I know of and unknown if she had PA?
You see I have an email that shows something poss happened one night when she went out with her coworker...I have never brought it to her attention bc I was worried about it at the time..you see she was my emotional blanket and I have reached a point now that I am not wanting her to be in control anymore..I want to take the reins back...I have phone records too that show proof of atleast a continuation of an EA to this day...I am tired of being the nice guy while she continues to be confused and not wanting to make a decision if she wants to reconcile our M...I have been dealing with this since March and going to counseling has been a waste of time for the both of us bc it has always been about me and how I supposedly contributed to her ED...well I am resp for my behavior in our relationship but not the guilt she is carying for continuing to have an EA with her coworker!!
I have had this email since May and am wondering is it ever too late to bring something like this up??
Any and all comments from everyone would be appreciated..
M:35 W:36 M:10 yrs T:11.5 yrs C: B7, G3 ED: 3/09 DB: 3/20/09 Served 12-8-09 Still going through the process