Hi Wifey, Before the bomb I had a very pessimistic attitude about a lot of things. This was one of my biggest problems. Many people would say that I complained too much. Losing my wife, my home and my family has really changed my outlook on life,as with most of the LBS on this board. I am able to take everything that life hands me with an appreciation now- I have been humbled greatly. My other major bad habit was/is procrastination. I work on this everyday. I bought a planner and actually use it now. I take care of bills as soon as I get them now instead of "throw them on the pile." I didnt clean toilets, I didnt cut the grass often enough, I didnt give my wife a break from her busy schedule often enough, I lost my temper and punched a couple holes in doors over the last 9 years, and I had a bad potty mouth. I always thought I was a good person because I didnt drink,smoke or cheat on my wife. Turns out that the things I was doing could be just as poisonous to my marriage.
Everyday I think about what my part in this is.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
I didnt clean toilets, I didnt cut the grass often enough, I didnt give my wife a break from her busy schedule often enough, I lost my temper and punched a couple holes in doors over the last 9 years, and I had a bad potty mouth. I always thought I was a good person because I didnt drink,smoke or cheat on my wife. Turns out that the things I was doing could be just as poisonous to my marriage. 
