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[sandi2]

Hi, I had read your posts from Sunday and I really hate all of this happened with your D. But I don't think you will be able to reach your W with reasonable conversation. She is not acting out of logic and will not be able to "think" like a normal person should think about the welfare of their child. Unfortunately, all she is thinking about at the moment is her own selfish needs. Things look really bad at this time and if I were you I think I would take whatever measures to protect your D from more pain being inflicted from her mother by careless words and actions. I'm not sure what all that might include in order to shield your D, but your W is not going to do what's best for your D, so you need to do it.

I saw what you had posted on Ashlee's thread:

I'm at a similar point with my wife, at what point do I give her an ultimatim. Their is no affair but a lot of other baggage. I feel the same way as you. I know that I deserve a better person than my wife. But I also know that this person right now is not my wife. I don't know if my wife will ever return. And at some point this all must come to a head.

If you really feel that way now, then maybe you are prepared to “drop the rope” with your W. When a LBS reaches the point of dropping any emotional ties to their S, then they make it much better b/c they don’t let it hurt them like they did before and they can move on with life whereas they were desperately trying to keep the M on track before now. This is JMHO and it is your life and your decision, but I am very concerned about what your W is doing in front of her own children and apparently doesn’t try to hold her feelings back for their benefit.