I'm sorry you're feeling that way. Big hugs for you.
Quote:
I feel like I should be upfront and honest about this, and let him know what's going on.
That's a natural feeling and it's because of the kind of person you are. He is not the kind of person you are. Please journal, post, call friends, do whatever you have to to alleviate that feeling but do not tell him what you are doing until you have to.
Quote:
My plan was to tell him the weekend of 8/22, and move the first week of Sept. That would give him two weeks notice.
I think you mentioned talking to your counselor about this. Why two weeks? I'm just curious as to what you're thinking about this. I mean...it's not a job. Have you gone over in your head what you expect to happen when you tell him this?
Quote:
I was also planning on telling him at his sister’s after telling her what I was doing and why, so that ONE person, besides H, knows my side of the story.
HIS sister? What is your relationship with her like? Have you talked about THIS with your counselor? I'm confused a bit...you are planning to discuss it with her first? And then later tell him there? Please please run all this through other people so others can help you see possible consequences for different courses of action.
Quote:
I am so anxious waiting for that date to get here; I want to get it over with. I’m wondering if I just go ahead and do it now…
Bunny, I get it about your anxiety. I really do, but in the effort to alleviate an uncomfortable feeling...what else could happen? Will you feel LESS anxiety if he freaks out and begs for you not to leave? Promises to change? Or...starts blaming you for the way you feel and tears you down for what you want to do? That will NOT make you feel BETTER. Please think. I know this is really hard, but you can get through it.
