ALMOSTDONEBUT...I'm back here because for the last 2 weeks I have been concerned about if I should or I should'n tell the OM's wife about the affair and I wanted to see suggestions from you guys online. Thank you
Leave the OM and his wife alone. That is their business and his W may even know or suspect an affair, however, she may not want to be told about it. Some women had rather not be told b/c they would have to face it or deal with it if they are told. Even so, the important thing is that you and your W have your M back on track and I promise you that if you ontact OM’s wife, it will result in hurting your own M. OM is not worth it. You want revenge on OM, but he will get what’s due him…never worry about that! I hope that you can find a way to release this poison that is in you that keeps you from being free of what has happened in the past. You are a captive to the OM b/c he has power over your thoughts as long as you want to get back at him. You may think his W has a right to know about this A, but the bottom line is that you want to hurt OM. Don’t do this to your W and to your M. You will be sorry in the end, if you proceed with the plans to contact OM or his W.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
