Hi Talista

Thanks for the post. Hey I still guess woring I thing but she can see I am approaching our interactions differently and I also think she can see that in many cases I have a different perspective on issues now in general.

I think it is a guy thing, well from some conversations, how much it is conditioning and how much it is just what we are I dont know . In myself I find myself really focussing in on one thing at a time, this become my 'centre' and everything else can get pushed to the periphory. It doesnt mean the other things are any less important, its just that they are not my in my current tunnel vision. So for the last few years prior to the split my work was the focus and my marriage was not in the tunnel. This didnt mean I loved my wife any less I just assumed she was happy about it and because she didnt hit me over the head with a lump of wood I thought there was no problem. Looking back I can see now that she wss giving me signals on she was not happy in some things and I can actually remember thinking 'well somethining is wrong but I will fix that up later after this project'. Stupid I know but I think a lot of us 'guys' suffer from the same affliction. Now mind you a clear statement of the impending problem by my wife instaed of cryptic messages would have saved us a lot of problems as well . I can laugh about ths now. So I look back it was basically miscommunication - me not 'reading' and her not stating clearly. We have agred that when I get back we will see a C to help us with this a bit. I think this will be good.

Thanks for the encouragement, it means a lot.

Andrew

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