Quote: I am finding a useful tool is to continually put myself in her position when she is upset and see how I would feel. This might sound awefully simple but i am male after all and these simple things sometomes illude us.
Great job! I'm actually trying to teach this to my H. For now, I am doing it in the past tense...(when this or that happened, can you imagine how I was feeling?)
He used to guess wrong, ALOT, if it even occurred to him to wonder how I was feeling.
It definately is a guy thing, huh? My H describes it as being like exploring some uncharted land to learn about his own emotional landscape (much less mine, LOL). It must be frightening and frustrating after years of being SO repressed and not having the vocabulary to talk about any of it anyway.
Keep going, Andrew, a little bit of this on your part will go a long way in improving your M.
