Wow - your S took his fists to his dad? Must have been a bad fight! Sometimes I wish my S would act out in some big way against his dad to get his attention. I don't think my H realizes the extent he is damaging his kids. Makes me so mad. Things he has verbalized about his dad in the past that bothered him he is now doing which I would so love to point out to him but I think it would be futile whil he is still so much in the fog.
"Funny how the kids adjust. S wants his father around more and wants him normal, but he has even just started letting H be a whole bunch. I guess they detatch as well. And no my H was not like this for most of S's life either. Yes he has always worked a ton but he was dad, not father." - perfect! That is exactly what I see too here. My H has always worked really long hours but he ALWAYS made a point to spend time with the family when he could and was a dad (a great one, too) not a father. Now he still works long hours but absolutely everything else takes priority.
Blech - having a very negative attitude this week and feeling like my prayers are not being heard. I need to shake this!!
