I think it must be a joint process. When I first came on here and read the 6 stages of MLC by HB I was looking for the stages to be happening in that linear way. While it is a valuable resource, it certainly does seem like for most it doesn't happen that way and with those times frames. My H definitely is cycling between the replay, withdrawal, and depression and now really seems a bit in reconnecting as well. Can't wait for the replay crap to end.
I am trying to just be grateful, grateful, grateful for the positives and the good things that have happened and try not to get sucked in now as things have settled back into not as good. I am definitely not as detached as I need to be.
The whole selfish parent thing - I know many people are like that even if they aren't in MLC. It is just extra hard to see a man who was so selfless before being so selfish now. Do you think he realizes and just doesn't care?
It is interesting to see my S sometimes barely give his dad the time of day, a total 180 for him and H seems to be noticing a bit now. Good.
