My boundaries are I will not engage in any kind of dialog other than what has to be done for children unless she is willing to be 100% honest about what she has been doing. No marriage counseling which she was using as a way to only discuss her exit not any issues. I have already told her a week ago I was NOT moving out of our home which is also my place of business. If she felt she needed more space than she was free to pursue an apt. Also, I would not want our daughters 6, 9 to be in contact with this other man unless we are divorced. I am divorce busting. She will also have to uphold her 50% of expenses and child care duties. I honestly think we can work through those details we have both said we don't want to hurt one other and I want to get back to "loving detachment," but only essential child communication unless she tells the whole truth.
Thanks for your support. Please stay with me...I need all the advice and support I can get!
