Hey run on run on. Its not a matter of proof, she doesnt have any because it doesnt exist. The basic problem came from I had promised that things would be fixed up by now and in fact they have taken about a month longer then what I had hoped. I know I shouldnt have promised but I thought I was right. This is a thing that I have to work on as I am basically a people pleaser and will'promis' to do things and then find I have severely over committed myself. I need to correctly set expectations with her, so I am to blame for some of this.
She can not move back into our house for another four months and she has to move from where she is next week. We have three animals and as there is a rental proerty shortage at the moment trying to find a place that will take a 68Kg rotweiler can be hard. So she has the stress of finding a house, moving by herself into a tempory four month place, having creditors ring up and abuse her for non payment of bills that I had said would have been fixed by now, etc.
I became the end point for her frustrations and worry, on top of this she does has a lower tolerance level due to her illness and medication.
In the end we will be fine fainancially. While the business has been a big gamble here an dhas made things very tight all looks like it will pay off and through this I can look forward to a very comfortable life from it. Saying that I am not a money person, I will always be an engineer who likes to build things from an idea and in this case it was a business. One day I will write a good book about it.
So all in all today was much better. She apoligised and told me she loves me. Her great quote today 'Sometimes I think I hate you, but when I hate you I still love you more then anything'. She is looking forward to me coming back to Australia for a couple of weeks.
Thanks gain for the advice.
Andrew
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