I agree FIB. Fear is probably the common denominator with most of us. I did not mean to imply that one should not attempt to save their marriage. I told K a while ago that the reason that I do not go to the newcomers board is that I would probably tell everyone to get the hell out of dodge once the bomb is dropped. Just leave and try to move on and not dwell on it. That is easier said than done. However, that is my conclusion after spending the better part of 18 months reading and experiencing the dreaded bomb. If after leaving the WAS wants back in, they had better get in 100% or as they say in your neck of the woods: forget about it!
