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BUT it doesn't feel right that I should be acting like a pr!c* by not inviting them.

Awww heck.

Oh - happy anniversary Mac - two months today since W bailed (not that I'm counting!)

Two months tomorrow since the crap texting killed the first chance to nip this lot in the bud.

If I could be sure that she's actually thinking about what she's doing and continuing to do.

If I thought that she's thinking about home and me. Still.

2 damn months and 5 damn short visits to discuss money. All there is to show for it.

I know - I'm doing a damn sight better than I was but hells bells this still hurts.

A black hole of a W. Awwww heck.

Shoulder spare anyone?

Mac in the doldrums.

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Morning Mac...

I vote no as well...The word will get back to her that you had a party and she had no invite which in turn makes her think about you moving on without her - a 180 which is perfect smile I hope you had a wonderful sleep and all is well.


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May All Who Desire My Ruin
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Ah thanks Serenity.

It's peeing it down here.

All is well........... well smile

Hope it is where you are to.

Got home early to rebuild a server and got caught up here in the community.

That makes PERFECT sense in a weird way (I think).
A 180 of note!

Nothing like being "left out" to focus the mind.
I hope she doesn't take it as a mortal insult.

I really am not the sort of person to say "bollocks to you".
I don't have a spiteful bone in my body - that's why it's so hard.

Oh - pop over to Beeps home. And vent. Like I did. You'll see.

Poor dear.

Catch u later on the threads - I promise.

Better get this server sorted out.

HUGS!!!!!!!!

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You are welcome my friend...

I know it is weird because I am the same way...

Always trying to be a people pleaser and a fixer and you can't be either in our situation...

It took me awhile (as well as Puppy forcing me to accept it) to "get" that...

I just wanted to fix it all and no matter what I did it wasn't working out for me...

I still find myself on some days wondering what I can do to fix it...

I then have to shake my head and refocus...

It is up to them and while it may suck, think of how far we have all come since this first started...

Off to see Beep...

Talk to you soon smile

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It is up to them and while it may suck, think of how far we have all come since this first started...


Serenity,

All I can say is "Oh yes indeed".

Thanks chuckie smile

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You are welcome my friend (((Hugs)))

I went and posted to Beep but I am hoping to find Puppy since his advice is outstanding...

If you see him send him to Beep smile


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And W has been spotted in the wild again!
Looking miserable as sin as usual.

What gives?

Would love to put a smile on her face.

If someone would just give her a nudge.

Still trying to come to grips with the no persuing part of DBing.
I have to let her work this out with no help? From anyone?

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Originally Posted By: mac-ct


Still trying to come to grips with the no persuing part of DBing.
I have to let her work this out with no help? From anyone?

Mac


Yep. Sucks, doesn't it? The help has to be help that SHE seeks or comes to her naturally. You arranging or nudging stuff behind the scenes is a no-no.

Hang in there, and take care of yourself! And no, don't invite W or friend to your party.


The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.

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http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137
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Shortest reply ever - ready for it? Here it comes....

K Dia

Heheheh

Mac

And yes it DOES suck because nobody wants to "hurt" her.

But I reserve the right to express my faith in my W to all and sundry when they ask how things are going.

I have great faith as well in Pat - very old friend who says "she wants to speak to me" on Thursday. Should be fun - she's a teetotaler wink

Where are the books??????????

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Evening one and all.

Where are all my friends? No post? No comments? No hugs?

Sorry people. Didn't really mean that. Just a bit on a down slope. Forgive me.

Had a particularly poignant bad trip home tonight. Last time (long while ago) when I had to go to town in the car, I texted my W "Sorry sweetheart, stuck in traffic. Will see you as soon as I can. Love you." Tonight I wanted to do the same but with an addendum - "sorry my mistake - thought I'd sent it to someone who gives a sh1t".

Ahhhh soddit.

Also wanted to throw a note over "friends" wall - "Cream crackers and Bovril for the dogs this month end? NEVER again".

I have a huge score to settle with this woman (loosest possible meaning of the word) who is "looking after" my W.

One on "party goers" for tomorrow night - said she was pleased with my faith in my wife and to watch "friend" who says "friend" is a b1tch from hell. Problem is - like everyone else "she doesn't want to get involved"

Sodditall.

Off to bed early with the dogs for a while.

See you in the morning.

A gloomy Mac

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