I agree. He is miserable, he says so himself. He hates his life. But he doesn't see, will not see, that if he chose forgiveness and trust (which they taught us at Retro), things would change. He would have a nice home with a loving wife and children who aren't torn up inside. We would have more than enough money to put aside and save up to buy our own farm.
What does it take for him to see reality? I am thinking it takes logical consequences, espoused in those 'boundaries' books. A rebellious teenager has no motivation to change if other people fix their problems. And I have been trying to fix Dan's. At this point he will start experiencing the fallout more firsthand. And if he still refuses to see reality, I can't change that...
