Dburt, I am already on that path. My changes for me started a couple months ago, nothing to do with my W at all, I have not been trying to change her, where I clearly see I had been before. I truly looked at myself, and thought: Is this really who I want to be? Am I doing what I really want to be doing? There was, and still is, a lot of soul searching for me, nothing at all to do with my W.
That has lead me to do a lot over the last few months, but I still hold that thread of hope for our M, so I keep some notes on what W is doing, and I know I still have love for her. But I also know that my changes are real, for me and about me, so that regardless if we D or not, I will be better than I was before, stronger and happier.
The 64 million dollar IWITW so to speak..
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
