I finally have some down time, so I figured I would check in a little here. The move wasn't nearly as emotional as I thought it would be. There is something cathartic about physical activity in relation to all of this.
Hate to say I told you so, but....I told you so!
(With apologies to Mr. Shakespeare) Forget the nunnery- Get thee to a GYM!
Originally Posted By: mountain_west
I've been feeling like I've been responding to events in my life. The past few days have felt like I'm being proactive. I've actually felt a little relieved after finally moving here. Being physically removed from the situation, I don't have the constant reminder of Her everywhere. And now I have a laundry list of things I HAVE to do for me. I can feel the tension in me just beginning to release. Not completely, but it enough for me to notice it in myself.
That's one of the things I've learned on my journey- that us guys who have had their Ws move out are not necessarily at a disadvantage in all of this. We tend to think in the beginning (or at least I did) that the "grass must be greener on the other side" of all of this, and the guys who still have their Ws living at home are at more of an advantage, or must be "doing something right".
Not necessarily so.
The sitch is different, yes, but each scenario has its advantages and drawbacks. For instance, Mach's W still lives with him. While he does get more opportunities to interact with her, and more feedback on just where she is in her process than we do in our sitches, it comes with a price. He has to be mindful of how he interacts with her 24/7, he only gets to let his guard down when she's not around, he has to deal with all the different phases she goes through, and has had to work on himself with her constantly in the background. Not easy tasks, I can assure you.
We're left in the dark with little to no interaction, but we get the time to take care of and work on ourselves thoroughly unhindered, and release those tensions you speak of.
Either scenario is not better or worse than the other. Just different.
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
