You have given me a bit of an in sight and in particular the point about the identity. My wife is funny at times, she has never had great self confidence in herself but she is a very good looking woman who used to do a lot of modelling. While she comes across as confident she inside has a lot of self doubts - most due to the illness that she went through.
She has gone through life thinking she has not achieved anything and knowing that she has always relied on other people to get by. So this business is more then money it is her way to say I have achieved somehting in life. She wants to be able to say to people that this is mine, I built it on my own.
Now I still do have my own insecurities, what if she is doing this to get independant enough to leave again. I know this is my mind playing games on myself, so I pull myself back by looking realisticly at the sitch. 180 for me is to support her as much as I can and take what she says on her word.
You have shown so much sterngth through your illness and pulling yourself up and succeeding in life on a number of fronts.
Thanks for your post it cleared some things up in my mind.
Andrew
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