Hi D and Shiny

Thanks for the reply. In the end I have decided not to do anyhting about it. Why bring up any antagonism over something that may never happen. This in itself is a 180 for me because once I would have analysed it, got into in depth discussions leading to her saying that I dont trust her, and so on.

When I look at it I can understand why she has brought it up (mind you it hasnt been mentioned for the last four days). She wants something that she can say she has done herself and to take ownership for. With her illness she did go through a period of hell in her early 20s (including hospitalisation for 6 months). Since then she has wanted to show people that she can achieve things - this is one of the things that I never understood leading up to our S and led to many of our problems. I dont think I was doing anything wrong but through this time I never took the simple step of looking at things from her perspective. Now I do and I can see many of her 'arguements' through the seperation. Mind you she did say to me if only I had approached things like I am now our seperation would have been much shorter . Mind you in my male perspective I did think (note not say) 'I wish you had told me this instead of dropping cryptic hints (Have to remember to get that inner eye working ).

Anyway our conversations are getting better and I can feel the trust coming back. Our conversations are always upbeat, happy and its great hearing the joy in her voice when we are talking again.

I am heading back to Australia within the month for two weeks and this is giving me soemthing to look forward to and she sounds excited to see me again. It is amazing the difference in a couple of months. After that we will spend time together at Christmas and the big step will be moving back into our house in Feb.

Anyway thats where I am at the moment. I miss her a lot but I am getting into the groove here.

Andrew


_________________________________________________ To go forward you have to put the past behind you