Kalni...in the immortal words of my good friend here, frank_d:
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You'll be OK
I try very hard not to let my own sitch influence how I support others, but, after being here for so long, I don't understand why people hang on...hoping and praying...that someone who tells them that they don't love them anymore, disrespects them, lies to them and sleeps with other people (in some cases while they are under the same roof)...will suddenly return to being the exact prototype of spouse that walked down the aisle with them.
During my attempts at saving my M, I talked with marriage counselors...priests...and even now family counselors who all say the same thing, in essence, "how can you expect to save your marriage with someone who is unsupportive, uncooperative and a non participating partner."
Still.. even if one decides to be a longterm DB'er....even Michele endorses an LRT or Last Resort Technique.
Filing....IS...an LRT. It is not a final divorce decree. The only stipulation is...that when you do it, you MUST be prepared to follow through on it lest you be in a MUCH WORSE position than where you are now.
Supporting you. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
