your surviving and eventual thriving will happen only if you pay very little regard to her actions/inactions. Some regard yes but only superficially just so that if she asked you some question as almost like a test you would have been "following along with the story" enough to be able to prove that you were ..in a sense. If you catch my drift. And if you don't, don't turn yourself upside down to try and get on my wavelength ..may not be worth it.
just thought I would have that much to say. The gist of what I was saying is directly tied to striving for effective detachment. It is the only way to make it through these awful messes we have stumbled into. Detach from things earthly and attach to things not of this earth.
so there you have my gibberish. either ruminate on it and incorporate what you wish or toss it in the waste bin.