Second Chance

[farfromhome]

Hi All

Actually just after a bit of advice and also want to get some thoughts down.

I had a really good interaction with my wife today, we talked for nearly an hour on the phone. Really up beat and happy. She had left the house when I was in India and I had to get it rented out, we cant get back into it until Feb next year and my wife has to be out of the house she is currently in two weeks. So after much looking she has found another one that will take pets and will give a short term lease, so this is all good and she will be back in our dream house early next year .

Anyways one of major issues was always her desire for some financial independance in the marriage, I was always the worker and while she had a few part time jobs she always saw me as controlling her through money. I never thought I did but I repsect her thoughts in this regard amd am working on this. Through our court cases, disputes over property became very very acrimonious.

In the last year before we seperated she started a business in which I had put a substantial amount of money. She has just got an investor to inject a substantial amount of money into this. Today she asked me if I will sign a document that would never allow me to make a claim on this company in the future. She told me that she just wants this so that she can be 'independant'.

To an extent I understand this and respect this but in me there is a little bit if a red flag about why she is doing it. I guess this bring back some bad moments through the property settlement days - like oif this is forever why does she want me to sign this document.

I am thinking of approaching this with her tomorrow and maybe saying that I will sign it once the comany has paid back the money that was invested in it. Also should I ask her to sign the same docs for my business and propery - aagghh.

Anyway Im going to sleep on this tonight and see what I feel like in the morning.

Thanks for listening, any thoughts welcome.

Andrew