Big John, I think you are going great and don't fall off the DB wagon just yet. I do feel that your W is on the phone with OM when she makes excuses to go to her bedroom to "lay down". I think she was teary eyed b/c OM sent her a TM that had her upset and she wanted to escape to her room and have privacy to talk to OM and try to soothe him over. But, you can't very well stand guard in the doorway to see that she "doesn't" talk to OM on the phone. OM's excuse of being "scared" is about as flimsy as any I've heard. And, BTW, if OM wanted to see your W, he would send her money to help finance the trip! I think you W is way out of line to think you should put forth one cent in financing a trip for her to have a PA! If that discussion comes up again, I really think you should be that plain about it. She doesn't have a problem talking to you about OM, so you need to call this what it is. What she is doing is wrong. She is being a hypocrite in her Church and she is being an adulteress. Those words sting but she needs to face it and stop the games.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!