Usually on Mondays, I work overtime. My shift is 5:30a - 2:00p. When I do overtime, I work until 7:00p. I decided since it was my birthday, I would go home regular time and try and enjoy the day. I wonder if I should have stayed. W was home, she has this week off. She took the boys to the beach while I was at work. When I got home, she was sitting in the car in the driveway. The boys had fallen asleep, and she didn't want to wake them. She had been sitting there for almost an hour, so I told her I would take over. I sat with them for almost another hour. When they woke up, I took them in the backyard and played for a while, which was certainly good. W busied herself cleaning the house for the first of the birthday parties which is today for my youngest who is turning 4. She did make gravy for chicken cutlets parmagian and macaroni for my dinner, so that was good. The boys gave me cards with gift cards in them to places I like and she gave me a gift card as well. (Obviously all the gift cards were from her). She didn't get me a birthday card, said she was busy getting all the parties in order. After dinner, we all went into the backyard and got it ready for todays party. FInally, we put the kids to bed, and she baked the cake for the party. She made a Mickey Mouse cake and decorated it from scratch. I complemented her on it, but didn't get much of a reaction. Once the kids go to bed, it seems, she kinda clams up. At this point I was debating whether or not to go to the gym. I didn't, and I will admit it was because in the deep, dark recess of my mind I thought there might be the slightest possibility of a chance that I might get my traditional birthday present. I didn't. So, I told her since there was nothing else going on tonight, I would just turn in. I probably shouldn't have said it that way, but increasingly I am losing more and more control over my actions in that area. Remember, she went to the beach earlier. When I got home she was still in her bikini. Anyway, I climbed into bed, and after a few Hail Mary's and a prayer to St. Michael, i went to sleep. Happy Birthday to me. I did at one point over the past couple of days asked W if she wanted to go out to dinner for our anniversary tomorrow. I used the fact that one of our favorite restaurants sent us an anniversary coupon. She declined, saying that she has too much on her mind with all the gatherings. I call shenanigans on that one, but at least she didn't flatly say no way, not with you. So, tomorrow I also normally do overtime. I guess I will stay at work. She doesn't want to do anything anyway. It might be good to stay at work so I am not around her, waiting for my anniversary gift! I shouldn't get too upset. She hasn't left, she showed me she has a doubt about not loving me, and she is not having an affair. I am still married, I just don't get to have sex with my wife like normal married guys do. (With their wives...) Either way, tomorrow is going to be rough. Before I leave the house for work in the morning, I will leave an anniversary card on the counter for her with the message about the kids. I haven't decided if I will call her during the day.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.