I wanted to say happy birthday also Orich. I sure hope it goes well for you. I did not forget about you. My night went better than expected.
This may be a rough couple of days for you. But you are not alone. You have friends here that care about you and hope for the best for you.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Thank you very much for the birthday wishes, guys. It's going to be a tough day, but not an impossible one. W is off all this week. I'll keep you posted as to how the day goes when I get home from work, etc.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
LOL, thanks puppy! I will see my boys after work, W is home on vacation. She was friendly over the weekend, so we'll see what she is like for my bday today. She did set up dinner last night which was nice. I may go to the gym after dinner, we'll see how the atmosphere is at the house. Tomorrow and Thursday are the boys' birthday parties, they are going to be fun days!
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Thank you all so much. It means a lot to me. I am about to turn in, I'll post my experiences in the morning.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Usually on Mondays, I work overtime. My shift is 5:30a - 2:00p. When I do overtime, I work until 7:00p. I decided since it was my birthday, I would go home regular time and try and enjoy the day. I wonder if I should have stayed. W was home, she has this week off. She took the boys to the beach while I was at work. When I got home, she was sitting in the car in the driveway. The boys had fallen asleep, and she didn't want to wake them. She had been sitting there for almost an hour, so I told her I would take over. I sat with them for almost another hour. When they woke up, I took them in the backyard and played for a while, which was certainly good. W busied herself cleaning the house for the first of the birthday parties which is today for my youngest who is turning 4. She did make gravy for chicken cutlets parmagian and macaroni for my dinner, so that was good. The boys gave me cards with gift cards in them to places I like and she gave me a gift card as well. (Obviously all the gift cards were from her). She didn't get me a birthday card, said she was busy getting all the parties in order. After dinner, we all went into the backyard and got it ready for todays party. FInally, we put the kids to bed, and she baked the cake for the party. She made a Mickey Mouse cake and decorated it from scratch. I complemented her on it, but didn't get much of a reaction. Once the kids go to bed, it seems, she kinda clams up. At this point I was debating whether or not to go to the gym. I didn't, and I will admit it was because in the deep, dark recess of my mind I thought there might be the slightest possibility of a chance that I might get my traditional birthday present. I didn't. So, I told her since there was nothing else going on tonight, I would just turn in. I probably shouldn't have said it that way, but increasingly I am losing more and more control over my actions in that area. Remember, she went to the beach earlier. When I got home she was still in her bikini. Anyway, I climbed into bed, and after a few Hail Mary's and a prayer to St. Michael, i went to sleep. Happy Birthday to me. I did at one point over the past couple of days asked W if she wanted to go out to dinner for our anniversary tomorrow. I used the fact that one of our favorite restaurants sent us an anniversary coupon. She declined, saying that she has too much on her mind with all the gatherings. I call shenanigans on that one, but at least she didn't flatly say no way, not with you. So, tomorrow I also normally do overtime. I guess I will stay at work. She doesn't want to do anything anyway. It might be good to stay at work so I am not around her, waiting for my anniversary gift! I shouldn't get too upset. She hasn't left, she showed me she has a doubt about not loving me, and she is not having an affair. I am still married, I just don't get to have sex with my wife like normal married guys do. (With their wives...) Either way, tomorrow is going to be rough. Before I leave the house for work in the morning, I will leave an anniversary card on the counter for her with the message about the kids. I haven't decided if I will call her during the day.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
And, BTW, 40 really is just the beginning! 