WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

I think now you just need to really back off. Let her figure this out, let her come to you.

She is very confused and she has to figure this out. You have made it clear what you want, so maybe now when you pull back and only deal with her as it relates to the boys and other logistical stuff, that'll be the final straw to wake her butt up that there really could be a life without you.....and how much it would suck.

When I was in school, there was a name for girls who did what your W has done to you. However, as a "wife", I think that makes it even worse to tease a man, knowing perfectly well what she's doing and that she has no intentions of going through with it. Have some self-respect and don't fall for her little teasing sex games when she pulls her clothes off except for her panties. You should have thrown those in her face and told her to get out b/c you didn't want her a$$. The sad thing is....she knows you do! Therefore, she can work you around her little finger and make a fool out of you.

we have beeen pretty much saying the same thing, how can a woman be attracted to a man that she can have anytime... she can even walk all over him, tell him she does not love him anymore, move out, pretty much do what ever she wants and she can still have him...I just do not see this working until that part is turned around.

I've really been thinking about what the three of you wrote about our Sunday evening encouters. It really gets me confused as she does one thing but then says something else. I guess my question is can a woman/WAW, really do things like my wife did the last couple of weekends, if she really doesn't have any feelings for me? That is one of the things that my wife keeps saying, that she doesn't feel that way about me anymore.

So I've really been trying to figure out how to "attract" her back.

I know her primary love languages are "Quality Time", "Touch" and "Words" (all 3 scored within 2 points of each other).

I don't think the jealousy route will really work as her dad cheated on her mom, and left the family for another woman.

This is really a tough one.....