Ok dgtal. We have given you all we can. I think that I have given you some great things to think about. I understand that you dont beleive us, and thats fine, but Im done giving my advice to people are so stubbornly refusing to listen. I really do wish you luck. I dont think that this will bring you peace. This will almost assuredly backfire. Have you talked to your wife about it?
Here is my recommendation for your letter.
Be alert. Your husband was calling my wife, July through August 2008 numerous times. But their affair has ended, I just need to share my misery with someone, so I thought that you should suffer as I have.
I want to dredge up something that was put to rest over a year ago and I feel like its time to bring it all back up again rather than move on with my beautiful wife.
Life has become just a little too peaceful and enjoyable for me, so I thought that I would stir things up a little.
regards, dgtal
I really think that you are a fool to send any correspondence to this mans wife, and you are a fool if you really think that she doesnt already know, probably could name several A's that hes had, hes probably already replaced your W. A woman knows her husband better than he knows himself sometimes, and Im sure that he hasnt gotten all of this past her. Almost everyone I know who has dealt with an adulterous husband knew that something was up, long before the truth came out.
And you dont know that he didnt confess and they are now working on their own reconciliation. This isnt your place.
So, best of luck my friend. I hope that you can find true peace, but I can see that maybe thats not what you want. I would seek help on this, if you truly are that committed to it. People on here have a very good sense of whats the right thing to do. Respect their opinions, they are almost always right.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
