he was back, i think

[bluerain]

doodles, my MIL was a major enabler. She even kept H's A secret from his dad and his brother. I think that its great that he was asking you for money. Can you present him with the receipts from your bill paying? Did you document that he called you a name in front of your son? My car payment is 208, and thats on a pretty nice car, he doesnt need to be wasting all of his money on a stupid car. Or demanding $ from you when he is floundering in the little dream world that he has made for himself.

Also, I think that everyone else is right, you can send your S out of the room when he wants to "talk". If your H wont respect your wishes, you cant make him, but you can control what your S sees and hears when he is with you.