Hello Kittyfish & Sandi2!

[BigJohn]

Hi Big John, I just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you today. How did your W act when she got home?

Thanks Sandi. I hope the break from the forums did you good. You were missed; glad you are back!

Well here's an update since we last corresponded: My W got home and immediately engaged the kids about her experience at camp. Barely acknowledged me when she came in. After trying to get her to tell me what she wanted me to cook for dinner with no response, I just left the room and went into my office. She comes in 20 minutes later teary eyed to tell me she is tired and wants to lay down and rest for awhile. She is tired from the drive home from camp. I say OK, I'll fix dinner and you wake up when you want. Two hours later she wakes up and has dinner, then goes back to bed.

I wake up the next day (Saturday), unload the car for her then wash/clean it inside and out for her. No thanks/acknowledgement. We go to a birthday party for the daughter of my BIL's fiance that afternoon and my W keeps her distance from me. BIL's fiance asks how things are going with me and W then tells me that my W told her a few weeks ago that she (W) and OM weren't talking and that OM doesn't want to see my W during the trip in August- something about him being "scared". I didn't make much of it- my W and OM are still texting each other as far as I know.

Later that day, my W and I are talking about her work and how somehow she needs to get more shifts in at her normally once a week job- we need the extra money now- and how we really can't afford this trip in August. I asked her what exactly are her plans as we are headed for some serious financial problems very soon. She replied that she was going to try very hard to get either more shifts or another job with a guaranteed 24 or 32 hr. a week shift after the trip in August. She also commented that she was "trying to work things out in my head" regarding our R. We talked a little about how fortunate we have been in our lives and I made a comment about counting your blessings to which she replied that she had.

Yesterday at church we participated in a post-camp celebration. My W put up a good show for everyone- I know she enjoyed camp, I just don't know whether it gave her any pause regarding what she is doing with OM. Last night, she made a big deal again about kissing the kids goodnight in front of me and telling them she loved them then turning to me to say a simple "good night".

Today she called to say she would be late for dinner- she is using a gift card from the PTA she got for volunteer work earlier this year to get her hair cut and colored. When I asked what color she was going to get she said "my natural hair color- something to cover up the gray hairs". I asked her what she was talking about- I haven't seen any gray hairs on her- and she said (adamantly)they were there "if you look real close."

This is ridiculous. The fact of the matter is that my W is a total babe! The hell with a few gray hairs. I'm damn close to falling off the DB wagon just for tonight- although maybe I already did yesterday- to tell her what a fox I think she is. Don't know if it will hurt or help things or not.

Talk to you later.