First Timer

[wolverine1997]

Funny how wife sees every flaw that I have even the minor ones but doesn't acknowledge any of her own. Since she has been diagnosed with depression and with the issues that she has had after the assault I have had to pretty much take care of everything. I don't understand how she can't see that. I have given everything that I have and bent over backwards for our family and for her.

She told me yesterday that I have a problem with control. I never thought that about myself and have never heard that from others. But it might be true. But at the same time I am very selfless and giving. I think that I have more good qualities than bad, as do most people.

I think that she is trying to justify her actions and decisions by flouting all of my faults, real and imagined ones. It's heard to explain to others that you are divorcing your husband because he cooks, clean, works, takes care of the kids, is faithful and has a good sense of humor. It's much easier to justify if you say that he is controlling, selfish, unloving, a liar and stupid.

I think going dark may help me more than it will her.