WAW Using God

[pigskin]

I saw you make a statement on another poster's thread that I feel is a very bad decision on your part. You said you were going to stop detaching from her. It's your life and your M and if that's what you decide....fine, but don't go messing up Newcomers who come here trying to find answers and you start putting the detaching method down. Just b/c you don't have the courage to stick to it, don't make others feel that they are making a mistake. I mean the very day you make this huge decision....you go and tell that to a Newcomer! BTW, how's it working for ya?

Sandi, I'm not sure which post you are referring to, as I don't remember putting down the detaching method. I remember saying that it was having a negative effect on my wife and things were getting more tense around the house, but I think I was taking it a bit too far. I wasn't in "loving" detachment; it was more like "ignoring". So I backed off a bit and it has made a difference in how we are relating to one another. I would say I'm still pretty detached as in not chasing, but I'm not ignoring her entirely.

My wife has become more pleasant to me, sending unsolicited text messages and joking a bit. She even gave me a goodbye peck on the lips before work, where before I'd get nothing but a hug or offering of her cheek. I haven't requested status on her EA but it hasn't been in my face at all either. We're still attending Retrouvaille post sessions. So things haven't gotten worse, at least.