Good morning everyone. Well, trying to wake up and find some PMA. Grabbed a cup of coffee in hotel lobby before everyone woke up. Didn't want to be there when W woke up.
Feeling a little ticked still, but I am giving that up. Feel like I've had my face slapped and don't want to stick it back out there. But I must.
Focus on the positive, GIMA. You're with your family at the Happiest Place On Earth. I know it stings, but remember what you guys all told me about expectations?
Have your coffee, look around and find something to appreciate.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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Feeling a little ticked still, but I am giving that up. Feel like I've had my face slapped and don't want to stick it back out there. But I must.
That's because you are human and had expectations. Detachment means you don't attach your worth to the outcome.
You are on vacation with your family, have some fun. Some of us are at work. Get your picture taken with Goofy or something. Go on, go get busy having fun.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Ah, hope you have a chance to show the kids the Epcot fireworks at night, ours loved that show.
Keep that PMA going GIMA, watch the kids having fun, and check out the sites. We went last November, and Epcot has more stuff for the kids to do, They can take around stuff and get stamps at each 'location' seems to keep them interested..
How's the heat down there, though, guess your a southerner anyways and used to that, eh?
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"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
Look at it this way, if things were great between you, it would be perfectly fine for you to take the kids out while she got a nap. You'd be happy to do it, right? And you'd greet her with a smile when you got back.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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@IWITW, yes its hot. But, I can deal with it. We come down here twice a year, so I feel like I could write a book about it. We are heading to EPCOT for the rest of the day, including fireworks - my favorite here.
@Dia, that's exactly what Iplan to do. I whispered in W's ear as she lay in bed that I was taking kids (mostly to get them out of the room so she could sleep) and for her to sleep as long as she wanted. And I meant it. She thanked me and will catch up with us later.
GIMA - I don't know if they still have it, but at the Journey to Imagination at EPCOT there is a photo fun place at the end of the ride sponsored by Kodak. YOu could have it take your picture and then add all these funny things to it. My son LOVED it as did I. I made the mistake of emailing that picture to my office from the machine right there at the park and now it circulates here every now and then just to remind me of how goofy I am. Do it if they still have it! It's fun!
If the kiddos are tall enough don't miss the "soarin'" ride!
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Just got back from the fireworks at EPCOT. We had a good time, and those are my favorite fireworks here.
Range of emotions today. Low boiling anger this morning replaced by loving indifference (I know, it doesn't make sense to me either) from lunch on. I have been cordial to W today, but haven't gone out of my way as a H would - just a friend.
Tonight during the fireworks, the thought struck me that this could be the last time we saw these as a family. And I waited for the sadness or anger to come...but other than sadness for the kids, nothing came. I honestly didn't care if I saw these again as my W's H. B/c I would see them always as my children's father. And right now, that's ok. Its not what I want, but its ok. God, I love them. My D5 rode out of the park on my shoulders - its gonna kill me when she's too old for that.
Well, I did my best today. It wasn't my best (or worst) day with W since the bomb...just the best I had today.
Well, I did my best today. It wasn't my best (or worst) day with W since the bomb...just the best I had today.
That's the definition of success per John Wooden. You are doing great. This experience will strengthen you in more ways than you can imagine right now. Keep handling it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Do it if they still have it! It's fun!