A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[iwantittowork]

Dia, I have seen you giving some great advice on other people's sitch's in your posts. I have not had time to fully read yours, so hope I don't speak out of turn..

But how do I handle him in his hurt/anger phase?

I believe this requires a lot of the DB techniques, though I am sure more experienced db'ers will offer some insights.

I don't think this is something you can handle for him, other than how you react to it. He has to work through that himself.

You can offer him the kindness of space. Keeping your PMA for yourself. Understanding that he'll say things that just are not true, or maybe hurtful to you, but also some things that maybe are true, while he is hurt and angry and to let those not affect you, nor be a reflection of the good person you know you are.

Also, take some time for yourself, to reflect on how you are feeling, and to acknowledge those feelings, not try and suppress them to yourself, and then be able to accept them for what they are, without judging yourself for how you feel, and move past them.

Wishing you the best!