Spoke to her today and we agreed to go to a counselor. She emphasized the point that it is to have a better post divorce relationship. She also admitted some interesting things. She said that her whole life came to a boil in this. She said our marriage failed, but that so much just came to the surface with her relationship with her parents, her inability to be herself, etc. I asked her why she couldn't agree to go to counseling and not see anybody in the meantime. She started to explain why she couldn't be with me. I said, "That's fine, but why can't you just be by yourself for a month." She said "I can't." I tell you it is moments like that that make me question the marriage. She really can't be by herself for 2 weeks. She needs a guy to justify her existence. That's just terrible. I'm going into the counseling with an open mind, but I am just learning more and more the depth of her insecurities.
