Not sure what to do now???

[Faith2010]

CP-
I also think you need to detach further. Set the boundaries and stick to them. Do not engage in conversation with him about OW. Cut that off immediately. If he brings her up tell him you never want to discuss her again because it is disrespectful to you and your M. If H continues to talk about her, repeat yourself.

I know how hard it is to deal with the drinking behavior. My H had a drinking problem and quit drinking about 4 1/2 years ago. I dealt with it for the first 12 years of our M. It had finally gotten to a point that I was going to leave. H had an epiphany of sorts, quit and has not picked up a beer bottle since. He does know if he starts again, we are done. Do not engage in conversations with H when he is drunk. Do not talk on the phone, do not allow him in the house, do not allow him around the kids. These should be boundaries you have set.

Also, H doesn’t have AC at his place? OH WELL. Let him suffer. H has made his bed, now he has to lie in it.