Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

[Sanderika]

Hi kissak,

Your son is sooooo cute. Son's are wonderful to have. Mine would say something like that too....they love us so much!!!!

The conversation you had with H is very interesting.

Do you suppose that he is changing, really changing?

Do you suppose that his is starting with the regret?

Maybe it wasn't all about carnal instinct. Maybe your H is testing the waters to see if he would be welcome back. Maybe he is really thinking he wants back in.

What if you decided to entertain him a little. Not Sex. Just turn up the flirty stuff a little. Knowing full well you are testing H, what can it hurt? Feed into his sympathies and needs. I don't know.....just an idea.

I am a firm believer that we cannot rekindle our marriages until we rekindle our friendships. My H and I are working on the friendship part and our communication skills with each other. We are intimate on occasion, far less though than we chat on the phone with each other. In our case we are very mutually attracted to each other. H has said he loves me and always will, I know he is not "in love with me". I want to nurture the love to create the "in love". I am, of course very much "in love" with him.

Can you see a way to create a new relationship out of his lonliness and persistent contact. He has a desire to be with you and he seems to be humble and sincere.

Guess, this is all just brainstorming. I am always looking for a new approach and solution.

Ask him where you stand in his life right now. What does he see for the two of you in a future relationship. What does he want, if its the marriage....is he willing to start working on reconciling it for real and in honesty right now. I think if you get him talking you are very successful with communication.
It's when they want to talk that you can ask the tough questions.

Hope you and your son fit in that romantic dinner for two, candlelight is a must!!!!

(((((hugs)))))

Sanderika