You are not wrong in any way, shape, or form. I don't disagree with anything you said.
She is circling because she is still trying to find a way to predict why H was with OW, if he really has learned, if he will really keep his promises, and basically she is waiting for the other shoe to just drop. It may, it may not. It is really up to her in so many ways.
Like you, I want to see her do this right, and pushing and talking about it, will probably backfire. But she does have to process and deal with her feelings or the insecurities that she will have/has will also backfire in her face down the road. That is all I was really trying to say. Simply in a different way. By looking at what is underlying the actions because as we both know, it is not a simple as just saying, it really doesn't matter. If life were that simple......
I know, and really NOT tryin to be edgy about this.
I understand completely what you are sayin...
To understand HIM, she will drive herself just as looney as he is right now though....
The NEGATIVE expectations can kill this just as quickly as the positive ones....
Almost, I'm not upset, but on SEVERAL of your posts, you have mentioned backing off and giving him space, which is what he asked you for. And then you seem to turn the heat up for yourself by talking about this.....
Read your words again....It's really there....
IF....and I mean IF, HE is bringing this up....
ALL you should be doing is validating him for now....until you get on more stable footing.
If there needs to be a boundry? Then you set it...FOR YOU, and no other reason is needed....
But to go through all of this because of a might be ?
That seems fruitless to me......
I MIGHT get hit by a pterodactyl on the way home, but I'm not getting out my protective suit for that.....
You gotta draw him back.....not tie a line around him and drag him....
