Don't give up. Keep standing for your M. You said yourself that he is sick right now. I don't know if you believe in God or not, but if you do, pray for him and pray for restoration. Your prayers will be heard. Sometimes it takes longer than we would like.
It is not our timing, but His.
Don't let people talk you out of your stand. What appears hopeless to the human eye is not when He is involved. Many M's get restored in the worst of circumstances. I would suggest you go to rejoiceministries.org. There are many storys of restored M's even from the couple that started the site based on their own experience.
It isn't easy, but nothing worth having is. Take care of yourself and your D and stand firm in God and for your M. You are standing in the gap for your H. Don't lose faith no matter what happens. To many times the offended S gives up to early and walks away when things would have been healed and repaired had they just had more patience and faith.
You can do this. You are doing this. Don't quit on him. He is sick and lost right now. Things will change with time.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...