Well some of it apparently was because they switched the payments from the amount H was paying (which is what I kept paying) to a different monthly amount in December he says (but he didn't know that he says). THe bank says a coupon book was sent but I never received it. I'm sure it went to H's po box since the car is in his name. He said he doesn't open the mail b/c he prob. figured it was re: to credit cards. Sounds like he isn't paying for them and he's going to file for bankruptcy/foreclosure.
I think I am about $400 behind or something (about one car payment late), and apparently they aren't happy b/c H & I don't have a credit union account there which apparently never happens they said. We had a joint account there when he bought the car, but then I switched to another bank (b/c that bank is in H's town about an hour from me), and H closed his account also for some reason.
I just spent about 2 hours talking on the phone to him. He sounds like he is willing and wants to negotiate with me on several issues. Says if we go to trial it's going to be really mean and nasty on both sides. But said he isn't willing to pay permanent alimony, and that's a deal breaker for him. I said well if we can work out every other issue which is what he's suggesting, we could just leave out the alimony issue to be decided by the judge and it would still save a lot of money on both of our parts. He then said if I was more willing to negotiate with him or something, then he'd maybe be able to help me with the car. I just feel nauseous after talking to him.
He was generally polite and agreeable, but he would occasionally say stuff like he was glad he got the kids evaluated b/c he found out they actually had issues and I wasn't just crazy. I said how sweet. (you can imagine what I was thinking). I just feel sick after talking to him.
When I was talking to him about alimony, I said I honestly don't want it anymore than I have to. But I don't want to be homeless. The economy sucks and by the time it gets better I may be in my 50s. I told him I think I'll get remarried within 10 years (I think that's what he wants) but I'm not 100% positive. He said well whoever I'm with might not want us to get married for $$$ reasons, and I said I wouldn't be with somebody like that at least not forever. (Snap: I was thinking about him and he probably realized it.
When we got upset some times both of us wound up calling each other honey sometimes. I guess habit...Crazy day, crazy day! Karen
